A word on “creepy”: I know it gets thrown around a lot without necessarily being explained, so I’ll take a crack at it.
Nobody loves being told that they are screwing up, obviously, but if you don’t have the ability to ever take any negative feedback along the lines of “Hey, could you not do that one thing anymore, thanks?” from a friend, YOU are the problem. When told that they are stepping on someone’s foot, good adult people will apologize and get off the foot and not perpetuate a FEELINGSDUMP about their need to really stand on feet sometimes. Communicating “Hey, that’s where my boundary is, thanks” IS KINDNESS. It is giving the other person the tools they need to be in a good relationship with you.
Jennifer Peepas (via astheshadowslovethecastle)
co-signed with a caveat that the flip side is being responsible for helping others (our friends, lovers, family etc) feel safe speaking up in this way
if you ever see me reblog something as a link please dont judge me im sorry im probably on mobile and didnt mean it
no but I just
lazy, indolent bobcat and lynx Lunars helping people in return for fish and earscritches and building their Appearance so they can get pet more and bounding (on big floppy paws) through the snows of the Haslanti League after Raksha from the Jet Court
thank you for your time
Dracon is this what you’re doing these days
tbh he’s mostly getting himself into hot water, having been graduated to an npc
this is just a general notice that if you haven’t read the the msscribe story or the cassandra clare plagiarism debacle on bad_penny, you are really missing out on the depths of the TRULY ridiculous in fandom history.
The msscribe story has to be the most awesomely entertaining wank report in the history of fandom EVER. Like, I stopped reading wank reports after that because nothing will ever live up to that.
[Jaime Lannister voice] HEARD YOU WERE TALKING SHIT ABOUT BRIENNE OF TARTH [PUNCHES YOU IN THE FACE]